There are different types of tears and different types of chemical compounds of tears. There are tears that are created to remove a foreign body from the eye. There are tears created by cutting an onion, and there are tears whose function is to reduce tension, remove toxins from the body and help to calm down. These are the crying tears of toddlers.
Evolutionists argue, and it sounds very logical, that children's crying is their first form of communication, especially communication for survival. Imagine a hungry baby, or a cold baby, or a child who sees a snake - if they don't cry no adult will come to save them. This is the quickest way to attract the attention of others and enlist their help.
Today, when it is possible to examine the substances secreted in the tears (high levels of hormone secreted by stress), we can understand that crying is a necessary and efficient physiological process that allows humans, especially the youngest ones, to cope with emotional distress by removing these chemicals from the body And so the pain is relieved. Right after crying do you feel better? This is because the tears have removed the chemical substances created by the pressure, the pain, the grief.
In my opinion, babies and toddlers should be allowed to cry and whine. Let them be free, let the stress hormone get out of their bodies. As long as the toddler does not hurt someone - let him express his feelings in tears and also make it easier for his physical systems to rebalance.
The problem, in my opinion, is us: the crying of toddlers makes us feel all kinds of things. First, he calls us to be helpful. This is probably the primordial and primary role of weeping: to make us reach, to respond, to help, to comfort, to heal.
There are a parent whom child's crying makes them fall apart, as if it is the end of the world and they have to make and help their toddlers right now, right this second. Such a parent will envelop the child with such anxiety that the child will understand that something terrible is happening to him. In addition, he will realize that his crying makes the parents so quick and so powerful that he may adopt crying as a tactic to subdue his parents.
Some parents think that crying is a sign of weakness. As if weeping symbolizes an inability to function, to find a solution, to cope with an uncomfortable situation - and this sense of helplessness of the child drives the parents crazy.
And some parents do not get excited. These kinds of parents say to themselves "So she cries, so she was hurt a little, so she will learn to cope." These parents actually leave their child alone in the battle. The girl stands there and allows her tears to clear her body of the residual stress hormone, communicates with her parents in the most elementary way possible, bad for her (even if the parents do not seem to cause such unhappiness) - and she is alone. Suffering alone.
Parents, when your toddlers are crying, all the other parents who are around will look at you with a crooked eye. Go to your toddler. Embrace your child. Do not tell them "it's not so bad" or "it will pass" because it is so terrible to the toddler, they do not believe it will ever pass and they are already crying.
It is clear that from time to time an educational element must also be inserted, because it depends on what the crying is coming from, but the educational element, or what I call "the lesson of learning the lessons," can take place two hours later or even three hours later.
When your child cries, do not choke his crying, give him legitimacy for his feelings (insulted, angry, hurt, and sad) and allow him, by crying, to restore the balance to his body and reach a state where he will feel better through true uninterrupted crying.